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PostSubject: Unsuccessful Breastfeeding Making you feel depressed ?   Thu Oct 30, 2008 9:56 am

My little girl is 4 mths now and for the 1st 2 mths, I struggled with my milk supply. My milk never "came in" after that 1st week after the birth no matter how much suckling and "jungle juice" preparations, yeast tabs...(I tried it all !!). I even went to see a lactation consultant and was told to supplement my child's feed as she was losing weight too fast. She is thriving, picking up weight, smiling plenty but i just feel so guilty about putting her on formula. It has made me feel like my body has rejected my beautiful girl. I continue to obsess about breastfeeding and when i see mommies breastfeeding their babies, I feel do depressed ! If I could breastfeed now, I would throw that can a away in a heartbeat.
I feel like I have missed out on such an amazing opportunity to bond with my child AND she is not getting the best nutrition. I feel like half- a- mommy at the moment ! Anyone feel the same ?
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PostSubject: unsuccessful breastfeeding   Tue Nov 04, 2008 12:32 pm

Please don't be so hard on yourself. You did do some breastfeeding which would have been of benefit to your baby. Unfortunately, it wasn't successful but at least now your baby is thriving and well which is the most important thing. You are not half-a-mommy. Breastfeeding is not the only way to bond with your baby. Try to look on the positive side in that the feeding of your baby can be shared, which will give you some time to yourself. I really understand your disappointment and would suggest that you perhaps go and speak to your clinic sister / GP about your feelings. Sometimes just being able to verabalise your anxiety can be of enormous help, especially from someone who understands.

Take care
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PostSubject: Re: Unsuccessful Breastfeeding Making you feel depressed ?   Mon Nov 10, 2008 9:39 pm

Hi there,

My little boy is now 15 months old, but I'm replying to your post as I was also not able to breastfeed and can completely understand how you feel.

I was not able to give birth naturally (labour failed to progress) which filled me with huge feelings of failure. Then after about 3 weeks of feeding perfectly and being so pleased, he suddenly rejected the breast for no apparent reason. I went to doctors, breastfeeding consultants, chiropractors, and no one could help me. He just would not feed, screaming and arching his back, never feeding for more than a few minutes, yet when I gave him a bottle he took it like an angel and would drink the whole thing. I eventually gave up and put him on a bottle, managing to express for a while, giving him a mixture of formula and breast milk. I finally gave up and put him only on formula when he was 2 months old, I was depressed and exhausted and could not deal with expressing anymore. Like you, I felt like a terrible mother and a complete failure and was sure I would never bond with my baby. I would go out with my friends and they would all be breastfeeding and there we would be with a bottle. I was so disappointed in myself - maybe if I'd tried harder, or seen more specialist I kept thinking.

Now I look at my gorgeous, healthy little boy and the feeding issues seem very far away. I feel completely bonded with him, he's just as healthy as any toddler his age and what's best is my husbands bond with him, which he says came from being able to spend so much time with him and feed him when he was so little.
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PostSubject: Re: Unsuccessful Breastfeeding Making you feel depressed ?   Wed Jun 10, 2009 11:43 am

Hi there. I can relate to your feelings. I had had to have an emergency c section followed an hour later by a hysterectomy which resulted in a problem with my milk supply. I felt hugely guilty for not being able to nourish my own child and had to suppliment with formula. I also feel guilty about not being able to birth my child and about not being able to provide him with a sibling. I do look back now and realise that asking for help with the feeding meant that I was being a good mother. My child's wellbeing was the most important. You did your very best by the sounds of it and your child is doing really well. you are a good, loving mother.
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